Hi everyone, I am going through the process of divorce and find that my emotions are all over the place. I'm sure that's par for the course. I am usually happy go lucky and exert a positive aura to those around me. I am feeling like there is a wall in front of me and am having a hard time knocking it down. feel isolated and alone. Don't have alot of ambition, which is not normal for me. I have concentrated my energies on caring for my 3 boys. I guess I just feel drained. My soon to be ex won't leave. He is my basement dweller. It is very difficult to move on when the problem your trying to get rid of won't leave. I have pictured him moving out many times, it hasn't worked yet. I am trying very hard not to exert negative energy towards him but it is sooo difficult. I know that wishing for revenge is not the right thing to do. I have not gotten to the forgiveness yet. I am holding on to alot of anger and need to let it go. Please advise.
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well, having just gone through a divorce, I can say it isn't easy. I'm still struggling. I too was stuck in the house with my soon to be ex and his sometimes cocky, always condescending attitude. I finally just packed up some clothes and my two yorkies and left, while he was at work. I have to say that was the best solution for me. But I didn't have any kids at home - no my ex waited till he didn't have to pay child support.
Moving isn't easy and it isn't always the answer, but short of having the cops come roust him out, it could be you need to be the one to take action. Maybe by packing up his clothes and belongings for him and setting them at the door.
Good luck with things, and remember you aren't alone. It seems divorce is rampant these days.
Another thing you could do is cleanse your part of the house with a sage smudge bundle, then set crystals of protection around your area of the house. You may not be able to get rid of him, but you can fill your space with positive energy.
b4icu it is normal to feel drained during emotional times like divorce
don't be too hard on yourself. I can imagine how aggravating it is to have him live there. there must be a way, a legal way, to make him move out. if it is your home, it shouldn't be hard since you spent more money into it than he did.
do your best to pay attention to yourself now, not only to your kids. Don't forget to nurture your self, as much you nurture your kids. Look into plans for the future. What career do you want to have? higher education? if you need additional jobs, where can you get them? what are the courses you can look into, to improve your talents and well being - many free online courses about nutrition, yoga, meditation, all kinds of spiritual empowerment on google and youtube these courses can be your source of positive energy, people send them out to empower others and you will be one of those empowered by it, go with what you believe such as religion, wicca etc there is always something for everyone.
you feel drained because you forget to nurture yourself. it's hard to forget your problem since it is living with you, but if you stay busy nurturing yourself and your kids and live your life, you will be surprised how fast time flies not even remember who lives in the basement.
you can't stay positive if you are not healthy, spiritually or physically. divorce can be long process. you have done all the right thing by not sending negative energy. you will make it. don't despair, fear or worry, they are already negative energies. whenever you feel down, say to yourself; this too shall pass. again and again. for it is true, it will pass and your life will be back to normal. may the universe sends you suppot and shares you its abundance.
leoscopion, thanks for the uplifting words your'e right. This too will pass. I feel better already just getting out the built up frustration. thanks again
stormyeyes I would like to know more about cleansing the house with sage smudge bundles. ? sage wrapped up in small packets distrubuted through the house. thank you for your support. I will try the crystals of protection. I like that idea.
you can visit this thread for protection info
if you feel that the negative energy attacking you from outside
http://www.tarot.com/forum/topic.php?id=2816&replies=37
not sure if you need it, you only mentioned drained so I didn't say anything about protection
stormy might have her own thread to suggest
Thanks leoscorpion I appreciate the thread info on protection. I don't think the negative energy is attacking from the outside but I will look into this. This is all so new to me. You give very valuable information. Things that I wouldn't have thought of. This is truly amazing-the great advice and passion that flows through this forum. The positive energy is encompassing.
b4icu.could you tell me your birth date , time and place please (if that is not too personal) and I will do a chart and try and give you some insight. Peace and love.
Thanks highpriestess 3. Sorry it took so long for me to get back. 03-12-67, 9:59 p.m. Milwaukee, WI. Really appreciate this.
I'm on it b4cu, but is tthat 12th March , or 3rd December and which state is WI please (I am a Brit and we do or dates in reverse to you)> Cheers!
