My 15 yr old daughter is recovering from Anorexia Nervosa. She's working hard to overcome it. How may I continue to help her, I'm finding it very confusing?
Welcome to the Tarot.com Forums. If this is your first visit, be sure to check out our Rules and Etiquette.
To start viewing messages, select a category below. If you want to post, you need to be a member at Tarot.com. Sign up for a FREE membership, from there you'll be able to pick a Forum User Name. If you're already a Tarot.com member, log in here.
Tarot » My daughter needs help-or do I?
Friday, October 30, 2009 16:16 PDT
Knowledge is power! Learn everything you can about her condition. I'm sure there are support groups that you could attend....either by yourself or together with her. It helps just to knowing that you are not alone and others face the same problems.
My heart goes out to you. Our children's problems feel worse than our own problems. Probably because we really don't have the control over what they do. Atleast not the way we have control over what we do. It makes you feel helpless when you want to fix something for them and can't or you want to help them but don't know how. I once heard someone say "Having a child is like having your heart walk around on the outside of your body for the rest of your life.". I've never heard a more accurate statement about being a parent.
I'm sure you both could use some help and there is nothing wrong with asking for it. Good luck to both of you.
Friday, October 30, 2009 17:49 PDT
I heard it from some people that gaining weight is as hard as losing it
I have always been more on the ideal, a bit underweight side
probably because my mom tends to the overweight and my dad the underweight
LOL so I end up in the middle slightly to dad side but never too much
there must be professionals you can see to find out how you can help
I would also go online for free articles about her condition and other people's experiences
to help see how other people are doing it
I know one who is trying to gain weight, he said his family is a tremendous help
always be there when he needs them and continuously support him even when he gives up
Friday, October 30, 2009 21:08 PDT
All my greatest Thanks to you!
Oh, yes...what you both said is so true;
our children are our biggest love and it can also hurt BIG time, if they are not ok...
And, I'm helping her through to recovery using a newer evidenced based method..."Maudsley Method". Much higher success rate than the "old school" methods. All's progressing as it "should" be, and so true! It IS hard to gain weight...??!! :)
it's just that this disease is really creepy. Like a heinous beast...
It sounds crazy, but you have to be around it to understand.
Truly evil. BUT-- my daughter is a strong and good person, she's doing well. I just feel that, in a way that's hard to describe...is it possible that I've been invaded by this evil...as she's recovered I seem to be filled with such negativity...
I actually prayed, " take me, let her be free!"
I'm not Anorexic, yet I can feel the negative energy in me.
Thank God my girl is better.
Am I imagining this? Has anyone felt they've "made an exchange" like this?
Oh well, Thanks to you for responding!
And I'm still praying-for the good to prevail.
Bless us all,
Lisa
Friday, October 30, 2009 21:47 PDT
yes I have and it is normal
the negative energy you are getting is either from her or from you.
from you because you are worried and perhaps do not have faith that you will be able to help her
from her, this is most likely, for this energy has been filling her up therefore she lost her appetite
how she is filled up with negative energy it could be from those that sent it to harm her, unintentionally or intentionally. don't worry the universe will return this to them.
also she may have sent it out, out of anger/ frustration/revenge, not knowing that the universe returns all energy we send out, back to us hence she is suffering.
not everybody understands the concept of energy and so many of us constantly are trapped into this pattern of sending negative energies that return to us causing ourselves problems
protect yourself and teach her to protect herself
mere visualization of white/blue light will help to block more negative energies from coming in or be exchanged
this is important for her since being anorexic her friends might tease/insult her which is negative energy on its own, if she doesn't know how to protect herself, she will keep suffering from these attacks and if she is angry, she will then suffer from her own anger
teach her to stay positive and send only positive thoughts on top of visualizing
you can also get her a quartz crystal gem for her to keep in her bag
or if you are afraid she will lose it, keep it in her bedroom
wash it every night with salt under running water, leave it air dry for 5 - 10 mins
then let her blow her breath onto each corner of this gem and tell her to pour her worries/sadness into it. the gem will purify these negative energies for her so she will be cleansed of it
whenever you can, energize the gem under sunlight, doesn't have to be direct, as long as there is no roof or trees covering it. remind her to always do both energizing, washing and blowing her breath to the gem regularly. in time, it will cleanse her from negative experience/energy completely. quartz crystal is very powerful. if need be, you can also get black tourmaline and do the same with both gems. I use both regularly whenever I am stressed out or worried. so you can also use this gem, but you can't use her gem. It has to be one for each and you can't exchange gems with your daughter without cleaning them, in fact to be safe, don't ever do that if you can help it.
hope this helps. best of luck.
Monday, November 2, 2009 17:36 PST
OMG LS I have just recovered from a 6 month battle with what they determined were ulcers (I think for lack of another explanation) after running a million tests to rule out the kitchen sink. I literally was vomiting almost to death for 6 months. I have determined that this was and may be still a psychic attack due to others negativity and my anger and feelings of injury and disappointment because these are people who are supposed to love me. I had Hans do a reading for me recently he confirmed this. I have been doing mirroring and am also using my Herkimer crystals to cleanse and protect. You are so right about this. Thank you for the help. Anyone who does not know the healing powers of crystals or how to cleanse them for this purpose will greatly benefit from this advice. I am wiccan so I thankfully had access to this information but my advice to this lovely woman who cares so much about her daughter, is to listen to your advice and take it seriously b/c it will help. I have had a tremendous lifting since I started mirroring and using my crystals again.
Blessed be to you all and to Lisa I will pray and send light energy to your cause as I do my own. From someone who did not/does not have a loving mother it is nice to hear a Mother championing her child no matter what.
Monday, November 2, 2009 17:42 PST
By the way, the sad thing is I already know all of this about energy etc but it so hard sometimes to break patterns of fear and we can get very lost when bad things are happening to us. I want to thank all of those (LS you were a big part of this for me) that helped remind me of the power around me and the strength inside me, so I can once again be alive and be the best Mother, Wife, Hume I can be.
I am truly humbled and so very thankful.
Blessed be
Monday, November 2, 2009 18:44 PST
Try, in a comfortable and friendly manner to talk with her about how she plans to overcome it and say more positives than negatives. The key is to be sunny about it, because anorexia hits hard mentally
Monday, November 2, 2009 18:45 PST
Try, in a comfortable and friendly manner to talk with her about how she plans to overcome it and say more positives than negatives. The key is to be sunny about it, because anorexia hits hard mentally
Monday, November 2, 2009 18:53 PST
rikku sorry I didn't know your experience but glad that my story helps
be careful with negative energy people send out, some of them may be powerful enough to linger and over time it builds up hence attracting more negative energies to you and yet blocking positive energy from you and so you are dragged deeper and deeper
protection will send back the negative to sender and if you keep sending positive you will get positive back. the gems will work to your benefit, can also work by neutralizing negativeness that you receive when you forget to protect yourself somehow
May the universe sends you support and blessing rikku
I understand how hard it is to break the patterns, but you have done it and learned a great deal
I am so happy your strength returns.
